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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Why do girls just want to have fun?
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stop messing with girls and try women ![]() Amen! |
AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: advice
between now and next month?
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: advice
If it is not a legal marriage then why worry?
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: advice
How can she remarry so soon if she is not legally divorced?
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: How many
lol.. unfortunately I'm a pro. I have enough ex husbands they could have their own support group.
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Do you
26 year old daughter and 21 year old son!
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Just wondering
I dated a guy in a wheelchair. The relationship didn't last but it had nothing to do with his disability... unless being a horse's a$$ is considered a disability.
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Who's coming
I do! I do!!!
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Changing for yourself
Seeing myself naked is a great motivator to keep up the exercise and eating healthy.
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Trying to date the ex the 6th time
Have you ever told her that what she is doing annoys you? Why would she stop if she doesn't know.
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Why do you think you are taken?
I believe I am taken because I have finally met someone as busy and as secure with themselves as I am!!
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Fighting Frustration
I have done the online dating thing for longer than I would like to admit. I am a busy professional so it is a venue by which I at least have a CHANCE to meet someone.
The #1 thing I learned a loooonnnngggg time ago was that you MUST have a sense of humor. The 2nd,,, avoid unrealistic expectations. The internet is not a venue by which to develop a relationship, it is a venue by which to meet potential lifemates. Don't try to form the relationship before you ever meet.
Edited by AllSmilesInTulsa on Thu 09/11/08 04:30 PM
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Why are kids horrible?
I've never had this issue. I have always been fiercely independent so the message that I am looking for a daddy for the kids never came across. Then again, I didn't have my children until a little later so the men I dated were older.
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Do I bite my tongue?
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You need to allow them to figure things out for themselves. You can not control what an ex does on their time with a child. Trust me, as children get older..they will figure everything out for themselves and chances are..as they get older, they will no longer want to visit the other parent as much. If it is bothering your daughter to that extent..she herself needs to talk to her father about it and how it makes her feel. She's only 6 and a half... Old enough to express her feelings.. she obviously did with you. ![]() From experience feelings are not always that easy to express at such a young age. If the child can express these feelings to the mother, why do you feel she cannot express them to the father? There are a number of variables that can differ from person to person, the reason I never said anything was due to intimidation. I'm not saying her daughter is intimidated, but when you've known one thing your whole life and a new aspect is added into the equation it is difficult to cope with...all I'm saying is I wish someone would have spoke for me when I had the same concern... It's true that as humans we avoid confrontations so expecting a child to willingly discuss this with the father may be a bit too optimistic. Possibly the mother could facilitate the conversation without projecting her feelings. |
AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Do I bite my tongue?
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You need to allow them to figure things out for themselves. You can not control what an ex does on their time with a child. Trust me, as children get older..they will figure everything out for themselves and chances are..as they get older, they will no longer want to visit the other parent as much. If it is bothering your daughter to that extent..she herself needs to talk to her father about it and how it makes her feel. She's only 6 and a half... Old enough to express her feelings.. she obviously did with you. ![]() From experience feelings are not always that easy to express at such a young age. If the child can express these feelings to the mother, why do you feel she cannot express them to the father? |
AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Do I bite my tongue?
I understand what you are saying. Let's face it,,, a lot of times, married or divorced.. the father is the "fun" one.
My children are from 2 different marriages and believe me,,, I have had to swallow a LOT of $hit to insure they have a good relationship with their fathers. In the end it was all worth it. As someone said earlier in the thread, children will see how things really are.. but remember, we chose them to have a child with. It is up to us to put the child first. |
AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: Do I bite my tongue?
If I were in your shoes I would tell my child that sometimes when people (in general) get a new friend they tend to give them a lot of attention. I'm sure he doesn't know he is doing this and you should tell him how it makes you feel.
If you get involved it could cause a rift between the two of you. It is HIS relationship with your daughter. Though we always want to make things right for our children, it is their relationship. If she can tell YOU what is bothering her, she surely can tell him. By allowing them to work through the issues it will build a stronger relationship for them and you will not be perceived as interfering. |
AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: OMG! Am I really that old?!!!
When I'm asked if I like younger guys I tell them they aren't bad if you cook 'em right.
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AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: FreeAppDating FITNESS CLUB
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I walked 3.25 miles before work this morning. WOW great! Too hot here to walk much outside excpet in evening...then there are the bugs...I have a treeadmill, but don't like it too much...so my fav. excercise is Hoop dancing...I LOVE it! ![]() We have a large mall that opens at 6am for walkers. It's great,,, climate controled and can window shop! Though my daughter is humiliated that I am a "mall walker". |
AllSmilesInTulsa![]() Joined Mon 05/28/07 Posts: 1489 |
Topic: FreeAppDating FITNESS CLUB
I walked 3.25 miles before work this morning.
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