I hear ya...recently was in this same place (waking up thinking of someone far too often) but I've recovered... hang in there!

...One thing that bugs me is the notion that being dependent or letting someone open doors for you or sit first is a sign of weakness. Feminists went a long way to make that point, and i dont think its very true.



I noticed something similar when I took Women Studies in college. Yes, it is a real course. You might never guess what many successful independent women said they needed. Give up? A wife. I thought that was interesting.


1st...PLEAE be patient with the women who got the mixed messages from the early feminists... trust me, we got the most garbled stuff! Good girls "do" but then you are an "idiot" if you do and you can take care of yourself but heaven forbid if you allow yourself to be feminine or do anything like dress nice or wear make-up or ??? OMG...is it any wonder we don't know what we like???

second...
Yeah...after being single for 17 years, I could absolutely use a good wife! Taking applications next week...

So apparently we've never REALLY resolved the question.. (how we digress!)

So how independent is TOO independent???

Gentlemen???

Sorry...I'd say I'd be interested but it "depends"...

Normally anything re: my kiddos rocks...

For my most selfish self, driving with great music blasting, windows down, and feeling the "nearly autumn" air ...total mind candy!

Thank you! The 50/50 myth is exactly that...it takes both parties giving 100% all the time (or as close as they can come to that) to make a relationship work!

In the workplace or with female friends, yes...absolutely...
With men/dating situations, it's much harder to figure out. I prefer it when men are straight with me...don't be "nice" to spare my feelings cuz I can't read that message well and I may end up making a fool of myself because I just didn't get it!

What does this have to do with race??? Sorry...I'm not seeing it as more than an issue related to being HUMAN of any color...

Very happy if you aren't "lonely" while being alone -

If you are spending the weekend, aren't you already past the point of "rules"...
OMG, I can't follow the rules...I DON'T UNDERSTAND THEM!

OMG...an interesting post turned ugly in a heartbeat!

No coffee...No beer...

I am a "tea-totaling wino" thank you very much :)

How about just be nice and oh, BTW...try to communicate more than once...the "hi" and never seen again methodology is usually a flop with most women.

I have a terrible childhood memory of using something like Brill Cream instead of toothpaste...it came in a tube and I was too young to read! I feel your pain - seriously!

This thread is SOOOOooooooo disturbing...and yet, the responses have me LMAO. It must be time for bed when this is the high point of my evening...
Night all!

Killers "When You Were Young"

Ummm...perhaps you should just let me drown???

Not as much fun as CAnoodling!

"Everything I Touch" by Stabbing Westward

Cheap Trick "Surrender"