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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: What Does The Pic of The Person Above You Seem to be Sayin - part 2
Wow, bar mirrors really do make you look pale!
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Chivalry And Independent Women
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"One person can't do a PROPER job of raising children, by the way. If you're a single parent, you are FAILING your child." That was me...and I speak from the experience of being "raised"--if you can call it that--by a single parent. My mother chose her job over her kids. When we needed her? She simply wasn't there. So, one of the first life lessons I learned is that you cannot trust or depend on ANYONE. Nice lesson. "Oh, sorry...let me quit my job, we can move right over there under that overpass and I can spend all the time in the world with you." Really? Sorry mum, but while you were working so I can have a roof over my head living with you I missed out on spending a lot of time with you...well aside from those weekends we would go to the park...right... What time at the park? Like I said, the first lesson I learned from my parents is that I couldn't depend on them--for anything. I would have preferred to have never been born in the first place--since she obviously had such poor taste in men that she had to marry an abuser, but I would have preferred it if she HAD gone on welfare so that she could devote the proper amount of time to her kid...or even better, given me up for adoption to TWO parents who would have taken better care of me than SHE ever did. I am sorry for your experience, Galahad, but to take that PERSONAL experience and put it on EVERY single parent is wrong. My mother married a drunk. Then she married an abuser. She raised me and my sisters alone. Aside from poor taste in men (and we ALL have issues and problems -- we're all mortal), she was an exceptional mother. I can honestly say that if it weren't for her I would be dead by now. Your mom, my mom. Same situation. Different people. Don't umbrella people.
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i also know plenty of single parents, guys and girls, that work 60 hours a week and go home only to get right down on the floor and play barbie and G.I. joe.
Oh, OH! I have a date with my 11-year-old tonight after work to get stuff for her new cat.! ![]()
Edited by snarkytwain on Thu 09/18/08 02:30 PM
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Wiccans
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Rapunzel, as noted it really has not been a problem at all. Feel free to discuss openly whatever is on your mind. ![]() Thank you Dear Krimsa... ![]() ![]() ![]() I have not been online much lately... visiting with Family out of state... & I have not been reading this thread... just a few comments here and there... i just noticed it this morning actually... ![]() and felt inspired to express a few spiritual observations along the way... I have a good friend Will < Wiccan Cowboy...> ![]() & he says that he loves and respects me ![]() for loving him, & for accepting him... ![]() even though he has different beliefs than i do... ![]() I have friends who are of every faith and belief... ![]() and i try to love them for who they are ![]() as long as their beliefs don't harm anyone else.. ![]() I seek for peace and even though I believe in Christ ![]() ![]() ![]() I try to let people know ![]() that I look for things that unite us ![]() rather than divide us ![]() for there are so many things ![]() that make us soo close and sooo connected... ![]() and there are tooo many things to divide us... ![]() and that is what causes dissension and war... ![]() I come in peace ![]() to show that we really are not all that different ![]() and who is < anyone > to be the judge...? ![]() The Bible says that For all have sinned ![]() and have fallen short of the Glory of God... ![]() I am a Masterpiece in Progress... ![]() for I want to be clean, & Holy ![]() & as pure as the finest of Gold... ![]() I believe in a Force, a Creator and Intelligence ![]() much greater than me...who loves me every much , ![]() & even though i don't see the whole picture... ![]() I know that I am loved and cared for , ![]() as is every living thing on this planet .. ![]() ![]() ![]() I have the Holy Spirit within me, ![]() however I am only part of the Whole ![]() and I happen to choose Light over darkness.... ![]() and i hope to shed light and wisdom ![]() and maybe be able to help others who are lost ![]() and hurting, lonely or troubled and help if i can to bring them into the Light ... ![]() Truly, honestly, and deeply, I agree with this. I came in here with much to say, but you already said it. Thank-you. ![]() |
snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Why a gentlman?
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The kind of woman a REAL gentleman would invite into his home is a lady who has her own means of support, her own shelter, and her own copeing system. A real gentleman would not talk about the size of his anatomy no matter how frustrated he is. Here, here! ![]() |
snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: NOT FOR DEBATE !!
God doesn't need ya to yell for Him, MorningSong. Take it down a few notches, plzthnx.
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you want De-bait? what bait do you want worms, bread, chum, shrimp, shiners, hmmm? i think ill take the shrimp - no de-bait there -
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Edited by snarkytwain on Thu 09/18/08 11:48 AM
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Why a gentlman?
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Women love nice guys, but some nice guys are just rubbish with women, and then blame the reason for it on their being nice. Niiice! Agreed, too. And the same for nice girls. We suck at the game. ![]() |
snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Why a gentlman?
Fusswhinegripewhinefuss. B*tchwhinemoancomplain.
That ^^ is to myself as well, by the way. Nice EVERYONES finish last cuz the majority of people don't know what they want, and the easiest way to figure it out is to screw others over. ![]() |
snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Spoiled children with no respect
I do... and he has 4 sisters. Just glad I have only one boy!
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Spoiled children with no respect
OK, OK, I'll be BACK on Monday. No internet at home and I don't work F - Su.
![]() And KymmieSue, I totally agree. Many kids in the past have been spanked. MOST of them haven't been traumatized by it. Instead, they learned to respect their elders, and the spankings stopped at as certain age. Abuse is when it crosses the line and becomes beating for no purpose and with no regard to the child's safety or well-being.
Edited by snarkytwain on Thu 09/18/08 08:35 AM
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: 30+ we're still attractive
I dunno Wacky... I'd say you like a few million years old.
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Edited by snarkytwain on Wed 09/17/08 04:32 PM
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Spoiled children with no respect
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That I think for a lot is the hardest part....to follow through and not give in. No one said it was going to be easy and when they are girls and reach 16 oh man oh man. I had to get right in her face chest to chest and let her know who is boss. I also had to prove that no matter how smart she thinks she is..I am mom and I am smarter because lil girl I have been there done that. She tried to get away with it....saying she was going to a play and I knew all along she was going with her friend to watch a band....so the next day when her and her friend came out and went to the fridge I just matter of factly said so guys I was at the play where were you...OMG the faces of both of them were priceless...and again I told them no matter how smart you think you are I will always be smarter.... I was the topic of myspace for a month and in all the yearbooks...I cracked up. Not judging here, but was that a lie? Winx, time-outs don't work for my son. A 4-year-old boy isn't gonna sit there till you tell him to get up no matter how well you explain your reasoning. That was my point. Every child needs something different to understand.
Edited by snarkytwain on Wed 09/17/08 04:26 PM
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Spoiled children with no respect
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In that case, people that feel spanking ( hitting whatever you want to call it) should as well be hit when they need to be "punished." Get a speeding ticket, get hit...Dont do your job (chores) correctly or defy your boss? Get hit.... I will be the first one to line up to smack someone that hits a kid ![]() Society takes your money when you screw up or it takes your freedom. That is why we teach children about boundaries and how to behave so that they will not end up in prison or poor. Teach them before society teaches them the hard way. Well, wouldnt that equal taking a toy or something the child may cherish away as a punishment? Instead of hitting? Whats fair is fair More like making the child live in the back yard ... you know like a homeless adult who cant pay his rent because he didn’t pay his tax's and the fed's emptied his bank account...yeh more like that. Cant quite relate to a child not doing their chores or having a tantrum in relation to your description Kids who don't learn that there are consequences to their actions grow up to be adults who don't care that there are consequences. My children are all very different. One of mine reacts to grounding. Another reacts best to being spanked. When I was a kid I got spanked and I have to this day never been in any kind of physical fight. Every kid needs a different kind of punishment. And I'll be damned if I'm going to let my kids grow up as spoiled tyrants who think the world owes them everything on a silver platter. And by the way, a spanking is an open-handed whack on the bottom until the kid realizes it hurts then STOPPING. Anything more is abuse, IMHO.
Edited by snarkytwain on Wed 09/17/08 03:59 PM
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: smoking
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yea i can do that. my daughter says they smoke in the house to.i know that in some states you cant do it they passed laws.good tip thank you As far as I know passing a law telling someone they can't smoke in their own home isn't happening, but most states now have made it illegal to smoke in public buildings and it's definatley not a good idea to smoke with a kid in a car... especially with asthma. I have asthma and that is akin to child abuse, IMHO. ![]()
Edited by snarkytwain on Wed 09/17/08 01:40 PM
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Guess the Job of the Person Above You - part 10
Kareoke queen
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: 30+ we're still attractive
I can understand that. I don't have your physical limitations, but I do have 5 children whom I have to be honest about, as well, and they can be just as much of a challenge when it comes to dating.
We all have something. That is both our curse and our salvation. ![]() |
snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: 30+ we're still attractive
Honestly, Hellboy, in the end it has a LOT to do with how well you get along with each-other. Looks do matter, but they can easily be augmented with personality if that personality clicks with you. Same can be said of "issues", of any kind.
What I mean to say is, enjoy life as well as you can, be happy, don't ***** and whine all the time about your particular issues (even if they can be more difficult than others'), and be a good friend, and she'll come along. ![]() |
snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: It already started in the first grade
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If you work at home, you can do it - be with them at the bus stop and cook for them.
Single mom's that have to be at work have it much rougher and regret that they can't do it. You are lucky that you can be there for them to let them know that they are safe and secure and a priority. ![]() I instituted a "night with mommy" where each of my kids had an hour after the others went to bed (from 8 to 9 pm), one night a week to spend one on one time with me. It works most nights (last night I was too tired and told my daughter we would do something on Saturday together to make up for it -- key there is followthrough. She wasn't upset because I had done the same for her big sister last weekend and saw I was good to my word) , and I use it even now because the kids love it as do I. But this year I arranged payment for my kids to come to the private school where I teach. Last night we had a pep rally where I was a silly cheerleader with a couple other teachers. Seeing my kids in the crowd, wearing school colors like me and screaming with the others... that almost made me cry. Being WITH them. It's more of a blessing than I can even explain. My heart goes out to all single parents who are not as fortunate as I. Bless you all. ![]() |
snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Spoiled children with no respect
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You are guilty until proven innocent with CPS...seems that way doesn’t it? It’s like a witch hunt. All someone has to do is make an accusation against you and then the next thing you know your explaining your self to BIG BROTHER. See, that's not at all my experience. That was my point. They have to follow through with calls in the chance that a child is being harmed. I give kudos for that. But they do NOT assume you are a bad parent. They want you to be a good parent, not only for the kids' sakes, but for theirs. It's easier for them to write off a case than to follow through with legal action. Now, maybe CPS where you are is bad, but where I am they take everything into account. Once, when my elder two girls were little, they took off while I was asleep in the morning, looking for Daddy's job. CPS interviened when a lady from a nearby store found them on the street, my then 2-year-old (now 10), with her diaper trailing along her ankles. CPS came to my house WITH my kids, after a cop came and checked to see that my home wasn't a meth lab (it was a mess but he said it was the best place he's seen all day. When I said that was sad he said "you have no idea. You don't have booze, drugs, porn, rotten food, dirty diapers on the ceiling etc. Your place is great" ![]() The end. That, by the way, is the only official recored I have with CPS. All else is dumb people calling for dumb reasons and CPS recognizes that.
Edited by snarkytwain on Wed 09/17/08 11:12 AM
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snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: It already started in the first grade
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Wow.... how interesting. I can say for myself I'd never, NEVER, EVER permit that and would be worried about abduction and cars on the road. I think Lily has similiar concerns. I think if my kid is old enough to be home alone he can wait for the bus alone. According to most daycare centers, that is age 12. According to my state, they can stay home alone at 9 and can babysit siblings for an hour at 10. 12 is babysitting age here. But that is tit for tat. I wouldn't let my 6-year-old wait alone at a bus stop either. It bothered me that my daughter was let out to run free in kindergarden after school. They go to my school now (I teach at a private school), and I am much happier with their safety. |
snarkytwain![]() Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 197 |
Topic: Spoiled children with no respect
Spanking is, for me, a last resort, but it IS a resort. I agree wholeheartedly with the originator of this thread that parents should be free to be parents without being afraid of CPS. I have had a few experiences with CPS because of family members calling them (they had vendettas, let's not get into it), and every one of mine has been positive. CPS isn't out to destroy families; their primnary concern is for children who are truly being abused. Their primary problem is stupids who call them for dumb reasons. Now, on my record they have a note that says I have family members who call and to disregard. This, of course, is after a few years of them watching me and my household to be sure that the calls were bogus, which I appreciate because it means that they do their job for children who ARE being hurt, but they have never even mentioned taking my kids away from me. Don't be afraid of CPS. They really do want you to be with your children.
And in washington, at least, spanking is legal. It is considered punishment, not abuse. It's when it follows into beating that it crosses the line, in the law's eyes as well as my own. |
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