the whole weekend with someone.. how many dates would that be considered?

What consitutes a REAL friend anyway?!

Just recently I lost a couple friends as a result of what I believe to be Selfishness.

For starters my son Travis needs a little extra help because of some delays in speech and comprehension but is undiagnosed at this point. I am raising him on my own with the help of my mother and really I don't know where I would be without her.

I am kind of going through a lot lately with the market being crappy my success at work has been limited which means financially I have been struggling and I lost the guy I thought I would spend forever with. Accepting these two things and trying to move forward has been somewhat trying but I am making my peace with it and getting back to my walk with the Lord as I know he is the only one that can rebuild me to who I need to be 100%.

Getting to the point though…. I was told that I am selfish. This is one of the first times I have ever been told this because if you know me you know that I give to the point of not having anything left for myself. My friends are a married couple with no children and are more than financially grounded. They can come and go as they please and do whatever they want without regard to anyone or anything. They are living the life! And apparently because I am unable to do the same at the drop of a hat that makes me selfish! Because I can't just tell mom hey I am taking off watch the kid see ya, I am selfish! Because I am completely drained with the direction my life has taken me and have nothing left to give to anyone, I am selfish. Because I am not in a place to care for and about anyone or anything other than my son, my job, my financial status, my relationship with the God etc. Although, any reserves I have go directly to my child because HE is who I am responsible to give love, support, and care to. I AM SELFISH! Well Sh*t that makes me a great friend to have right?! Sorry to those who don't have the ability to see past the tips of their own noses! What I have just described here is called LIFE and I am HUMAN! Doing all that I know how to do....

Lol! I pray that one day you recover from this!

Shadow (OP) please let me know if you feel I am hijacking your thread

Here's another question, what exactly do you feel after someone prays for you?

That is a VERY positive thought. And quite assuming.

Well this question comes up more then most realize it not only on the threads but.. I have also gotten e-mails concerning all the prayer threads.

I do understand ones that question the threads but also understand why they are posted. The ones I don't understand is asking for prayers when it comes to money or jobs ect..

Those things that are considered material things. Well wishes yeah I can see that for those things I wish all could have what they want.

But when I post to a prayer thread at that time I say a small prayer to wish them to get well or good news on test results at that time.

I do understand that many do not like to see these post in General as well and I do understand that. That is the reason I have asked for a Prayer & Well Wishes Forum in order to have a place for all these threads since we do have many of them they do need a forum of there own. Not saying they will make a Forum for them but it has been requested.

But in the long run if it brings a smile to their face just the thought that someone does care enough to respond then so be it. Let them have that smile one never knows what they are going through.

Just for thought...... there is a lady on a game site I play on she has been battling Cancer for several years now. She keeps all her friends updated and of course she ask for prayers to heal her. Yep I'm on that list and do send them. If my simple prayer helps her fight the battle whom am I to deny such a small request?

Shadow.... you say you are a positive person. Ever wonder if that is really true when about once a month you post a thread criticizing the other threads members post? I mean you don't just comment about it within that thread, you start a whole separate thread in a very subtle way belittling others. I don't see that as positive.

Why do woman treat a gentlman like crap. I pride myself on being a gentlman and woman like to treat me like I'm stupid. They want to sneak around and have sex with my friends and screw me over. OH I LOVE I LOVE YOU Travis next thing you know that Travis aint nothin your better then him nick. See I can't stand it see I pride myself on being a gentlman I am loyal, faithful, honest, and hardworking and sweet. I am getting a degree in buisness and contracting. I take care of women. I have let numerouse women stay at my house with no sex or money expected, women that their bofriends kicked out and woman that I diden't eaven know, Just woman that I saw were in bad situations like their boyfriend was beating them or their parents said oh its your eighteenth birthday and your cocky so now that your a grown woman get out. I braught those girls in my house and gave them sanctuary a safe warm place to sleep for free. Just because I am a southern Gentlman. All theeses girls that I date and I'm good enugh to for them to love but they just can't stay loyal. I don't have a Little D*** my daddy blessed me! But they still wana cheat on me f>>> this man I can't take this anymore. Thanx for listening FreeAppDating have a great day.

Shadow, the way I see it, there are some people who believe that prayer helps, and they are trying to use that power to help someone who needs that help.

While I personally do not believe it accomplishes anything (other than to serve as a sort of a panacea-comfort), the truth is that I don't actually know anything either way on the subject.

Maybe there is a God and maybe there isn't. Maybe He answers prayers and maybe He doesn't. I don't know. I don't believe it myself, because I have never seen anything to indicate that this is the case -- but absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.

I generally avoid the "Please pray for...." threads, if they are asking strictly for prayers, because I cannot contribute anything to them without being internally inconsistent and hypocritical. For me to pray for someone would constitute an act no different, in my mind, from performing a voodoo ritual or a magic spell or looking for answers in a horoscope.

On the other hand, I have no issue with contributing positive thoughts and wishes, if the poster requests such. This is something I can do with heartfelt sincerity, and hopes for the best possible outcome.

Just asking not judging, how many of you that reply to these prayer request threads actually take the time and pray for 'such and such'? how many just say you do to provide the requestor with the feeling of relief?

Well, the only thing I know is that going through the crap in life is a big part of what's made me who I am. It's made me stop and really think about who I am, what's important to me, what I want, what I need and what's completely extraneous to my happiness (which is most things). For a long time, life was pretty much on an even keel and I didn't put any thought into anything. Then I got whammied. Weird to say, it's the best thing that ever happened to me and if I could go back and change it, I doubt I would. I like who I've become and I wouldn't be here without that.

if someone is drowning,and you dont want to give them mouth to mouth,then guess what? pull down your pants and fart in their mouths(also the more beans you eat,the better the chance of saving someones life with your fart)







yes im watching manswers right now

when it comes to jokes?

Actually what I mean to say is...

Do you have a sense of humor, do you take a joke as easily and as readily as you dish it out?

Or are you one of those who only likes to be a host/ess?

Who are you callin' afraid?

Flirting School 101




The guys in here......suck at flirting and it's time they learned it not being vulgar.....It's a fine art and done right........women will be weak in the knees...and you will be the talk of FreeAppDating....