Topic: Some People!
smilingeyes_976 Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 1050 |
Ok, so here I was sitting here checking my email. My daughter is putting her daughter to bed. My boys were out on the porch talking to my sons friend. Well, I turn around and there is a kid ( who I do not know ) helping himself to my sons video game and a slice of pizza. I was shocked! This kid is like 6 years old. It's 9 pm. WHERE THE HELL are his parents? I said to him........UH! Who are you and WHAT are you doing in my house?!?!?! ( I'm a lil bit irked at this point )To which he replies.....Where's my brother. So I went out to the porch and asked the kid if that was his brother. He goes yes. Fine. He found his brother. Great! Wonderful! Right? Nope. I'm still ticked. So, I told them they had to leave and that they were NEVER to walk into my home again without being invited in. And that if they wanted food they needed to ask!
The thing that really torqued me off? This kids father just showed up at my house and tried chewing me out for yelling at his kids.!!!! I was like. Wait. Back up a minute. YOUR child walked into my house. Without knocking. Without Announcing himself. Helped himself to food and games and you're going to yell at me? I dont think so! I shut the door before I ran off at the mouth. But sheesh..... So what would you have done? Or did I over react? |
noname0720 Joined Fri 03/07/08 Posts: 251 |
i would have yelled "Get the SHotgun Ma!"
that usually gets them... and then the police show up... you probably shouldnt yell that actually. It never turns out good >:( |
talldub Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 81 |
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Ok, so here I was sitting here checking my email. My daughter is putting her daughter to bed. My boys were out on the porch talking to my sons friend. Well, I turn around and there is a kid ( who I do not know ) helping himself to my sons video game and a slice of pizza. I was shocked! This kid is like 6 years old. It's 9 pm. WHERE THE HELL are his parents? I said to him........UH! Who are you and WHAT are you doing in my house?!?!?! ( I'm a lil bit irked at this point )To which he replies.....Where's my brother. So I went out to the porch and asked the kid if that was his brother. He goes yes. Fine. He found his brother. Great! Wonderful! Right? Nope. I'm still ticked. So, I told them they had to leave and that they were NEVER to walk into my home again without being invited in. And that if they wanted food they needed to ask! The thing that really torqued me off? This kids father just showed up at my house and tried chewing me out for yelling at his kids.!!!! I was like. Wait. Back up a minute. YOUR child walked into my house. Without knocking. Without Announcing himself. Helped himself to food and games and you're going to yell at me? I dont think so! I shut the door before I ran off at the mouth. But sheesh..... So what would you have done? Or did I over react? I would have given them each a sound thrashing, maybe even connected them up to a car battery for a while, they'd never do it again. |
RareEntity Joined Mon 09/01/08 Posts: 1659 |
you were in line i think, sounds like that dad was just being a d!ck
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smilingeyes_976 Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 1050 |
thanks. I didnt think I over reacted to bad.
The father and lil boy just left ( again ) He did make his son apologize. And I replied thats fine. Just please remember to knock and you MUSTZ be careful about going into peoples houses that you do not know. ( I kinda felt bad because he was crying ) |
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RareEntity Joined Mon 09/01/08 Posts: 1659 |
good, at least they know how to be civil
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Redshirt Joined Tue 02/26/08 Posts: 641 |
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Ok, so here I was sitting here checking my email. My daughter is putting her daughter to bed. My boys were out on the porch talking to my sons friend. Well, I turn around and there is a kid ( who I do not know ) helping himself to my sons video game and a slice of pizza. I was shocked! This kid is like 6 years old. It's 9 pm. WHERE THE HELL are his parents? I said to him........UH! Who are you and WHAT are you doing in my house?!?!?! ( I'm a lil bit irked at this point )To which he replies.....Where's my brother. So I went out to the porch and asked the kid if that was his brother. He goes yes. Fine. He found his brother. Great! Wonderful! Right? Nope. I'm still ticked. So, I told them they had to leave and that they were NEVER to walk into my home again without being invited in. And that if they wanted food they needed to ask! The thing that really torqued me off? This kids father just showed up at my house and tried chewing me out for yelling at his kids.!!!! I was like. Wait. Back up a minute. YOUR child walked into my house. Without knocking. Without Announcing himself. Helped himself to food and games and you're going to yell at me? I dont think so! I shut the door before I ran off at the mouth. But sheesh..... So what would you have done? Or did I over react? You have the makings of a excellent middle school teacher.  Heard my principal tell a student that our job was to get them ready for high school. Wanted to tell him, "No, our job is teaching them how to behave and develope some manners." My students don't know how to ask for anything. They simply say, "Can I....." Then I look at them and say, "I don't know can you? Do you have the ability to? Do you know how to?"Know, I'm bad.
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missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 7988 |
I dont think you over reacted...I think everyone is different...my childrens friends know they are always welcome in my home.. If they are hungry there is food, if they are thirsty theres always something to drink..
But thats just me... my house is the "cool" place to hang out... Im the "cool" mom .. I dont let these kids away with anything, i expect respect and courtesy but most of them dont even knock anymore
Edited by missy51970 on Sun 09/14/08 06:38 PM
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smilingeyes_976 Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 1050 |
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I dont think you over reacted...I think everyone is different...my childrens friends know they are always welcome in my home.. If they are hungry there is food, if they are thirsty theres always something to drink.. But thats just me... my house is the "cool" place to hang out... Im the "cool" mom .. I dont let these kids away with anything, i expect respect and courtesy but most of them dont even knock anymore I agree. And my kids friends are always welcome here as well. They still knock though. The thing was I did not even know who this kid was. |
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missy51970 Joined Fri 11/02/07 Posts: 7988 |
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I dont think you over reacted...I think everyone is different...my childrens friends know they are always welcome in my home.. If they are hungry there is food, if they are thirsty theres always something to drink.. But thats just me... my house is the "cool" place to hang out... Im the "cool" mom .. I dont let these kids away with anything, i expect respect and courtesy but most of them dont even knock anymore I agree. And my kids friends are always welcome here as well. They still knock though. The thing was I did not even know who this kid was. Well you did what you thought was best hun...and good for you for stickin up to the dad.. he needs to watch his little kid even if the brother was there... your not a babysitter |
PacificStar48 Joined Tue 10/02/07 Posts: 1065 |
Don't think you over reacted at all. Sending a kid in first or to distract you while and older or other kids are ransacking the rest of your house or stealing your car is common gang tactics. That you closed the door on the Dad is the safest thing to do. Explaining to the child for his safety seems reasonable to me but don't be surprised if there is more fallout about this if the kid left crying. I would call the community affairs officer (the non-emergency number) and make a neighborhood watch report. THey won't do anything but if something happens later like your car or house being vandelized you have documentation. It might be a good opportunity to think about your home security. Home depot has chime boxes that sound when someone opens your door to alert you of comings and goings. Sad isn't it that some parents don't watch their kids any closer. A lot of times this is how kids get molested. They don't get taught to go only where their parents know the adults in the house.
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Redshirt Joined Tue 02/26/08 Posts: 641 |
Kids will never admit to it...but they like knowing what their limits are. They will push the limits. But with the limits they have a sense of security.
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smilingeyes_976 Joined Fri 11/17/06 Posts: 1050 |
absolutely! agreed with both of the above comments. It is scary though. Not that I was scared of a six year old. Kinda startled at first. What's scarier is thinking what could of happened if he had gone into a different home. Sadly there are at least 6 offenders in the village I live in. And in a town with only about 2000 people in it.
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TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 28735 |
Well since you did not know them I don't feel as if you were overreacting for each person has their own rules within their house. With me if I did not know them they best knock till I did know them.
At my house anyone my kids had over I always met them lol one way or the other. My kids learned to introduce their friends to me at the beginning for other wise they knew I would lmao. After that my house was and open door policy they came in and acted as if they were at home. If they wanted something to eat or drink they knew where it was and knew no one was going to wait on them. And they knew when they came in the house they came right on in and would yell out it's so and so I'm here to see Beau or Nikki lmao. But that was how I was for the same kids always came over we all joked and kidded around. There was only one policy you cleaned up what you messed up and never take the last item if it was the only one left lmao not without asking anyways. 
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Redshirt Joined Tue 02/26/08 Posts: 641 |
Wish I had more parents like you.
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southerngirl54 Joined Sat 08/30/08 Posts: 15 |
I don't for a minute think you overreacted!
The mindset of the world today is if you correct a child you are mentally abusing them . Horse Sh*t My kids were taught you never go into someone else's home uninvited! And if you are invited you never ask for anything. If it is offered you may accept but never was it OK to ask! If I had found out they just took food without asking it would have been automatic grounding!~ Long time before they went anywhere again~  I knew where they were and who they were with. Most of the time they and their friends hung out at our house, because I didn't trust that they would have adequate supervision anywhere else! You sound like a great Mother to me. I would have told that man "MY house, my rules. If you don't like that keep them at home." Just the way I am!
Edited by southerngirl54 on Sun 09/14/08 07:16 PM
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RKISIT Joined Tue 01/08/08 Posts: 2557 |
i would of smacked the father like the b!tch he is
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Redshirt Joined Tue 02/26/08 Posts: 641 |
Think shutting the door was better. He will have to think "what does that mean?"
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Friendleewon Joined Wed 08/27/08 Posts: 44 |
Sounds to Me like You did exactly what You should have.
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TheShadow Joined Sun 08/13/06 Posts: 12769 |
Who you! over react???
 JK sweetie No, you didn't. I would been the same way, but as shutting the door?  I would of gave him a peace of my mind knowing he had two kids running around that late. Thats just me Other then that, how you doing |