Topic: I have problems starting relationships
emotionalforsex Joined Tue 09/23/08 Posts: 2 |
I'm a SWM, 30 years old who is lonely with a lot of love and not able to find suitable dating partners. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have never been in a LTR. Another issue is, with my age, gender, and hormones, not being in a relationship means I want sex more because the loneliness I experience seems to kick my sex drive into higher gear--without my say. As a result, I can't find lonely, needy women who also want casual sex, while I struggle to find a woman with whom to befriend and eventually develop a relationship with. I'm currently seeing a psychotherapist intern do address these issues, but nothing helps. |
ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 8090 |
hookers, man...hookers
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Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 9861 |
Interesting first post.
What does your age and gender have to do with it?
Edited by Winx on Tue 09/23/08 11:20 AM
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Ted14621 Joined Mon 01/07/08 Posts: 850 |
I'm having relationship problems too.
My blow up doll blew up! 
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MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 38056 |
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I'm a SWM, 30 years old who is lonely with a lot of love and not able to find suitable dating partners. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have never been in a LTR. Another issue is, with my age, gender, and hormones, not being in a relationship means I want sex more because the loneliness I experience seems to kick my sex drive into higher gear--without my say. As a result, I can't find lonely, needy women who also want casual sex, while I struggle to find a woman with whom to befriend and eventually develop a relationship with. I'm currently seeing a psychotherapist intern do address these issues, but nothing helps.  Free porn helps
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Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 80247 |
Hormones and age really do have alot to do with sex drive.......dont ask me how I know this!!
 
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MisKim323 Joined Sat 06/28/08 Posts: 4115 |
Welcome and have a blast!
 
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Winx Joined Fri 08/31/07 Posts: 9861 |
Yes, welcome to Free App Dating.
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moonlight_ride62 Joined Thu 07/03/08 Posts: 809 |
whew....and I thought I had problems...
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Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 80247 |
Here is a thought........keep it in your pants for the first 3 dates........then unleash your demons!!!
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grneyedldy1967 Joined Wed 04/30/08 Posts: 1379 |
Maybe you should move to a different area.... or better yet another state...
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tombraider Joined Wed 09/12/07 Posts: 1958 |
perhaps..you might be interested in a slightly used blow up girl friend..i'll even throw in a half roll of duct tape...in case you get a little too frisky...
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snarkytwain Joined Thu 09/11/08 Posts: 607 |
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I'm a SWM, 30 years old who is lonely with a lot of love and not able to find suitable dating partners. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have never been in a LTR. Another issue is, with my age, gender, and hormones, not being in a relationship means I want sex more because the loneliness I experience seems to kick my sex drive into higher gear--without my say. As a result, I can't find lonely, needy women who also want casual sex, while I struggle to find a woman with whom to befriend and eventually develop a relationship with. I'm currently seeing a psychotherapist intern do address these issues, but nothing helps. Ya don't need a psychiatrist. Everyone has these problems. I'd suggest you masterbate and look for a good girl to love, because casual sex could ruin a relationship before you even realize it could be more, and in the end the sex will be much better if you can just wait and be patient. Trust me, I know this from experience. 
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SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 8669 |
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I'm a SWM, 30 years old who is lonely with a lot of love and not able to find suitable dating partners. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have never been in a LTR. Another issue is, with my age, gender, and hormones, not being in a relationship means I want sex more because the loneliness I experience seems to kick my sex drive into higher gear--without my say. As a result, I can't find lonely, needy women who also want casual sex, while I struggle to find a woman with whom to befriend and eventually develop a relationship with. I'm currently seeing a psychotherapist intern do address these issues, but nothing helps. Ya don't need a psychiatrist. Everyone has these problems. I'd suggest you masterbate and look for a good girl to love, because casual sex could ruin a relationship before you even realize it could be more, and in the end the sex will be much better if you can just wait and be patient. Trust me, I know this from experience. What SHE said!!! 
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longhairbiker Joined Tue 09/04/07 Posts: 14461 |
Hmmmmmm. Ask yourself what would your barista at starbucks do?
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emotionalforsex Joined Tue 09/23/08 Posts: 2 |
Thanks for your reply. It's frustrating! I've used Craig's List personals frequently to the point that my account(s) have been suspended because I post too much. I don't have any close female friends and I go crazy. I don't know how to make a personal bond or connection with a twenty or thirty-something woman. There have been many days of late where I will just break down and cry. |
RareEntity Joined Mon 09/01/08 Posts: 2151 |
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Here is a thought........keep it in your pants for the first 3 dates........then unleash your demons!!! all kidding aside, OP give it time, you'll find someone
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Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 1412 |
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Thanks for your reply. It's frustrating! I've used Craig's List personals frequently to the point that my account(s) have been suspended because I post too much. I don't have any close female friends and I go crazy. I don't know how to make a personal bond or connection with a twenty or thirty-something woman. There have been many days of late where I will just break down and cry. Interesting, I thought craigslist was useful for hookups. Maybe only in Seattle, where I lived for a brief time. You could try there... |
Roco Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 26 |
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Thanks for your reply. It's frustrating! I've used Craig's List personals frequently to the point that my account(s) have been suspended because I post too much. I don't have any close female friends and I go crazy. I don't know how to make a personal bond or connection with a twenty or thirty-something woman. There have been many days of late where I will just break down and cry. perhaps you should be seeing a sex therapist instead of a psychotherapist...okay man, here's what you do...instead of spending all that money on the psychotherapist and spending ineffective time on craigslist...go to a strip club...find an independent contractor that doesn't seem like she's getting a lot of business...have her take you to the back room for a few private lap dances..tip her well...keep going back...expect to pay quite a bit..but eventually, there's a good chance that you'll befriend her...and quite possibly this may lead into something more....you got to dress/look nice though.....try it, let us know how you do...you got nothing to lose, except perhaps your virginity...just kidding.. |
Chazster Joined Tue 08/28/07 Posts: 2324 |
You ever see 40 yr old virgin? You have to knock off some hood rats first.
in all seriousness W/E dude. That whole "wanting sex more" is BS. You don't want sex more than the typical guy. You are just trying to make excuses for the way you act. |